Too many of us are getting ca ught up in the cycle of self-care on our journey to self-improvement. Self-care is absolutely needed but, bubble baths and face masks will only get you so far. You need a coach and who better for the job than you?
When you’re living inside your own mind it’s hard to acknowledge potential areas of growth. Some of us know exactly what we want. Some of us don’t have a freaking clue. Then, there’s the group that thinks they know exactly what they want– only to find out they were completely wrong (guilty).
A life coach is like a personal trainer that kicks your ass into gear for the sake of achieving personal and professional success. A good life coach can help you resurface happiness, find your purpose, and create a more fulfilling life. They do this by creating space for you to look past your limiting beliefs and asking profound questions that you’d rarely ever think to ask yourself.
I didn’t become a wellness coach to make a career. I did it so I could become my own coach. I wanted to put my life in my own hands once and for all. It might be hard initially to get out of your own head and into another perception of yourself, but once you do you’ll be a better coach for yourself than anyone else could ever be. There are some truly fantastic coaches out there, but you don’t have to spend a small fortune on a coach to get life changing results.
Just because someone spends money on a personal trainer it doesn’t mean they are healthier or more successful than someone who goes it alone. Being your own coach is a lot like working out solo. As long as you’re approaching it with respect, dedication and a great amount of truth your chances of success are just as likely as the person spending money for a coach.
The Process
I’m not going to tell you that the process to coaching yourself is easy, but it is completely doable. None of these questions are going to create lasting change in your life without one thing– being brutally honest with yourself. You have to be truthful for any of these to work. It’s hard to accept our truths sometimes and looking at ourselves for who we– not who we think we are.
I recommend setting aside time each day to journal or meditate on the questions below. Doing this practice first thing in the morning will generally give you the most honest answers since your ego hasn’t had time to completely wake up. If you do this practice mid-day or in the evening you’ve had a lot of time for your inner dialogue to poison the truth. View this time with yourself as sacred. You owe it to yourself to hold space for a more fulfilling life.
Don’t rush through the questions. Instead really meditate on one a day. At the end of the week go back to what you’ve answered and hold yourself accountable for the goals you’ve made. Have you held up your end of the bargain for these goals or forgotten to follow through? Don’t be abusive to yourself if you haven’t followed through. It’s important to be honest, but gentle and optimistic at the same time.
Be Your Own Coach
- What brings you joy?
- Are you living your life to the fullest right now?
- What would you do if money were no option?
- What is your definition of success?
- If you had one year left to live what would you do?
- If you stopped caring about the opinions of others what would you do? What would you change?
- What habits do you want to incorporate into your life?
- When are you most inspired?
- How hard are you willing to work for what you want?
- What has worked for you in the past? What hasn’t worked for you?
- How will you know when you’ve achieved your goal?
- Imagine a friend is telling you about their goals. What advice would you give them? In what ways would you encourage them?
- Reflect on a time when you felt most fulfilled in life. What was happening?
- What do you need most right now?
- On a scale of 1-10 where would you rate yourself in regards to achieving your goal?
- What is one thing you can do today to bring you closer to your goal?
- What are your options?
- What can you do to overcome obstacles in the way of achieving your goal?
- What are you grateful for right now?
- How did my past shape who I am today?
- What can I do to simplify my life?
- Who is my support system? Are there any toxic relationships in my life that no longer serve who I want to become?
- What is stopping me from achieving my goals?
- What limiting beliefs do I have about myself or life in general?
- How can I hold myself accountable?
- What’s the scariest thing that can happen if I work to achieve my goals?
- What happens if I don’t at least attempt to achieve my goals?
Really sit with the answers to these questions. You deserve to hold space for yourself. If you approach coaching half-hearted you’re only going to hurt yourself. It’s not an easy process, but I have one last question for you. If your last breath was today would you consider your life a fulfilling experience?
